Kirsty Withams

Hi, I’m Kirsty

I’m based between South-West France and Essex in the UK.
People are often surprised when I say I am a celebrant and a coach. It might seem like two very different worlds, but to me, they fit together beautifully. Both roles ask for curiosity, emotional intelligence and the ability to ask the right questions at the right time. Ideally, without making anyone cry before breakfast, although I make no promises once we get into the vows.

As a celebrant, I work closely with couples and families to create ceremonies that feel like them. Personal, meaningful and full of character.

The heart of any wedding is the couple, their story and the way they love each other. We are lucky enough to get a glimpse into that, through the looks they share, the way they are with each other and their story. All these little moments continue to shape who they are together. 

My entire career has been (in its simplest form) about asking the right questions to gain information, then working with that information to tell a story. Over the years, the rooms and auditoriums changed, as did the subjects, but my aim was always to bring heart to uninteresting and soulless topics. But with celebrancy, heart and soul are there in abundance.

Having also spent some time as a photographer paying attention to tiny details, body language, atmosphere, and fleeting emotional moments, taught me to read a room instinctively. That skill has never left me and is used in every ceremony I attend. I get to honour them in the very best way.

Above all, my experiences help me bring calm, uplifting energy, clear thinking, strong communication and a storyteller’s instinct to everything I do. I can hold space without judgement, turn vague ideas into something beautiful and keep everyone relaxed even when there are a hundred moving parts.

Coaching has also become a natural progression for me. It had already woven itself into my work and life, formal training just gave it a clear shape. I blend relationship, career and somatic coaching with a grounded and practical approach. My clients set the pace, and I support them with clarity, honesty, compassion and a healthy dose of humour. Whether someone needs structure, reflection, emotional support or a gentle nudge forward, I guide without ever taking over.

At the heart of both my celebrancy and my coaching is one constant. Genuine human connection, held with warmth and a sprinkle of humour. Your love, your life and your story take centre stage. My role is to make sure you feel seen, understood and supported as you move through life’s biggest, most meaningful moments.

I know I will not be everybody’s choice. But if you are looking for someone who brings warmth, personality, humour and a little magic to the moments that matter, you are in the right place.